release the unforgiveness grip

Many years ago, as I desperately struggled with not being able to forgive, part of what allowed me to break free was this truth:
This is how God showed His love for us: God sent His only Son into the world so we might live through Him.  This is the kind of love we are talking about - not that we once upon a time loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God. 1 John 4:9&10  MSG

Think about it this way.   So, God knew, before I was ever born, all I would think, do, and say, and yet He still made a way for my sins to be forgiven. 

When I changed the focus off of woe is me to His love for me, I was able to begin releasing  the ‘unforgiveness’ grip on my heart so I could be set free.